Toxic People - Allow me to show you the exit
One of the goals I set for myself for this new year was to learn the best way of showing the toxic people in my life the nearest exit out of my life.
I’ve never been a very bold person - unless of course it came to my kids, then I’m pretty sure I could take on the entire Dallas Cowboys defensive line in order to protect my youngin’s.
Over the holidays, I was given a couple of gift certificates to Amazon. Today I broke down and used them in hopes of ordering the Holy Grail to harmonious relationships in and around my life.
First on my list is Toxic People: 10 Ways Of Dealing With People Who Make Your Life Miserable
I would tell you the other books I’ve ordered but I’m afraid that might be just a bit too much like finger pointing.
As I anxiously wait on my latest purchases to arrive, I thought it might be fun to hear what some of you have to say about the toxic people in your life and how you have handled them. If you’ve handle them.
Enjoy your weekend everyone!
Tags: toxic people, toxic relationships, family, friends, coworkers, relatives
3 opinions for Toxic People - Allow me to show you the exit
Dan
Feb 3, 2008 at 3:53 pm
Good for you!
I’ve had “doormat” and “punching bag” written on my forehead in neon for most of my life.
A couple of years back, I finally lost the strength to pretend that I was some kind of super-saint, and I gave myself one sweetheart of a birthday present: I fired almost my entire family, and almost all of my friends.
Sure, it was lonely, and still is, but it’s incredibly peaceful. And one or two at a time, I’m finding healthy replacements for those relationships.
The trick is not the first confrontation, it’s the second one. A toxic personality has a lifetime invested in their game. They can’t stand the thought of a sudden, simple defeat. They’ll shift strategies and come back. I think the best way to prepare for that is to make sure you’re really ready to say good-bye forever. No second chances, no repaired relationship down the road..you don’t have to be vindictive and you need to avoid bitterness like the plague, but a good way to establish your own value in your eyes and others is to cost a bully the chance of ever having another relationship with you.
Dan
Feb 3, 2008 at 3:57 pm
Oh. I also fired my toxic boss and my co-workers.
PS First! :-p (and second o.O)
Gayla McCord
Feb 4, 2008 at 10:47 am
Dan - thanks for the vote of confidence. It’s amazing at how clearly things become the older one gets. I am hoping I’m teaching my kids how to easily recognize toxic people in hopes of preventing them from becoming quite so entangled with them in their adult life.
Life is just too darned short to let miserable people steal it away.
Glad you found your way out of the toxic people pool
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