The Hand That Rules The World
I have been so very fortunate in having been able to find ways to work from home for the last 6 years and afford a nice cozy lifestyle for my boys and I – However, there are many mothers’ who don’t have such opportunities.
Have you taken a look at the classifieds lately? Everything out there requires a college degree, many even state they don’t care what that degree is in just that one is required. Whatever happened to employers hiring someone based on knowledge and experience?
Perhaps someone should come up with The University of Hard Knocks that issues degrees based on life experiences and areas of expertise, even if the experiences include floor mopping 101 or Diaper Changing 202 or what about a PhD in Dispute Settlement?
I have seen articles written on just how hard the job of parenting is, yet no one wants to recognize the true skills it has taken many parents to raise great kids. Those experiences just don’t seem to count. Yet many parents have amazing skills and experience in problem solving, mediation, creative writing (or story telling at bedtime). Parents tend to have extremely strong organizational skills. And have you ever seen a parent that could not communicate? OH and what about that the ability to multitask? Let’s not forget that! Anyone who can organize meals, soccer practice, baseball games, school lessons and still keep the white clothes from turning pink should be recognized for their abilities and not just because they are listed on some sheet of paper that could be displayed in a costly frame on the wall.
Whatever happened to the saying “the hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world“? Did something happen somewhere along the line and the rule changed to be…the hand that rules the world so long as you are bilingual, have at least a degree in underwater basket weaving and are of mixed ethnicity.
Many of the jobs I see specify that you must be free to travel obviously the strong underlying statement here is that you have to neglect your family. But hey, that’s OK because they’re gonna reward you for your neglectful ways!
It’s ok that you neglect your family and run the risk of you or your spouse having an affair simply because you are “lonely“. It’s ok that you have to miss your child’s ballgame and miss that amazing triple play your son had that he will never be able to repeat. The bright side is you will have a nice fat paycheck from which you can buy him a new bike in hopes of making up for what you have missed.
Now in my own opinion, I have always put my family first. If I have to struggle for every dime and pinch my nickels till the buffalo…well you know… Then I will! I will not miss my children’s ballgames; I will not miss a single tooth fairy visit. I will not have a paid servant placing a band-aide on that boo-boo that only mom can kiss the pain away from. I will not have another person who has little interest vested in my child’s personal growth instilling *their* morals and standards in *my children*. I want to be the parent who can stand at my child’s graduation and know without a doubt that *I* helped create that amazing adult who is about to make an incredible mark on this world.
Why must it be so difficult in the land of opportunity, to find a job that also provides balance and room for family?
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